If you talked to an able-bodied person you are flirting with or someone you have been seeing for a while, or someone you simply like, would you ask them what they like in bed? If the answer is yes, know that it should be the same with a disabled person. As long as there is context (meaning a connection) and respect (meaning that you know that this is not a topic that makes them uncomfortable, or you have already discussed with them about it) there is no difference.

Of course, if there is mutual interest, why not? Think about a place with fewer architectural barriers and/or one that accommodates sensory and intellectual needs. It is certainly a great gesture of care to plan ahead for the perfect date. Also, consider asking the interested person what they prefer to do and where; organizing together and abating gender expectations, whereby you have to do everything on your own, will be even better: talk to each other and ask what you prefer to do and where.

There is no correlation between health and masturbating. There have been many myths and rumors in the past that were meant to create fear around masturbation. But none of these are true: masturbating does not cause blindness or infertility, among others. Masturbation is a natural act with many positive aspects because it allows you to get to know your body and to understand how to stimulate it in the best way, thereby figuring out what you like or don’t like to do.

There are no manuals when it comes to feelings like love or attraction. So, if that’s how you feel… why not? But yes, there is responsibility for what you do with these feelings: Are you in a sexual-romantic relationship with both people and neither of them know it? Or do you want to get closer to one person, but you don’t know which one?

If you want to take a step forward, it is important to think carefully about how you feel about each of them and make sure that the other is aware of what is going on, that there is consent.

The only issue with swallowing semen can occur if the person with a penis has a sexually transmitted infection, since you can contract an STI through oral sex as well.